Figuring out who should pay for what on a first date varies depending upon cultural norms. Traditionally, in America, if a male was to take a female on a date, he would have been expected to pay for both of them. However, as times change and standards continue to evolve, the answer to the question of who should pay on a first date becomes a bit hazy.

As a good rule of thumb, the person who asks for the date should expect to pay for both of their expenses. This solution may not be obvious to both parties, however, as the person asking might assume that the costs will be split while the person being asked might assume that the person who asked them out will be paying.

In order to prevent any potential awkwardness on the date, it is a good idea to make it clear who should be expected to pay prior to the date taking place. This can be done easily by stating something like “It’s my treat” or “Drinks are on me!” at the same time you are asking someone out. Similarly, you might request to “go dutch” in hopes of splitting the cost of the date.

When someone offers to pay for you, that is not to say that your acceptance of the offer is the end of the story. By offering to contribute to the expenses during the date, you can demonstrate a sincere concern for your date’s generosity. Your date may insist on paying despite your offer; however, your offer will still have a positive impact on your date’s opinion of you. Just remember: always remember to say thank you when you are the one being treated!